Mrs. Dykowski... focuses on what really matters

Focus has never really been a strength of mine. 

Any mother can probably commiserate when I say that has only gotten worse since I’ve been in the family way. 

For whatever effort it requires and whatever obstacles we have to overcome, being intentional about our focus is worth it. 

It’s easy, in the age of social media and consolidated power, to let other people guide your focus. 

Before you know it, you might be more caught up in what someone is doing at a football game than you are the needs in your own community. 

It’s easy and, let’s be honest, sometimes more fun to be a keyboard activist than to do the things that make a real difference in this world and bring people together. I’m guilty. 

I’m not a fan of the phrase, “Majoring in the minors” because I think sometimes people use that as an excuse, calling their flaws minor so they don’t have to change. But on the other hand, it’s important to continuously ask ourselves if what we are focused on is really important. 

In light of the violence that occurred in the past week in Las Vegas and at a church in Tennessee, I want to really take a look at what I think is important. 
When I see people politicizing these tragedies, I can’t help but think they’re missing that opportunity to see what’s important. 

Tying a mass shooting to the NFL flag protests, in my inexperienced, millenial opinion, is missing what’s important. 

To me, making every violent crime an argument for or against gun control is missing what’s important. 

In my life, what’s important is realizing that there is no perfection on this earth. Your vision of the perfect America, my vision of the perfect America, even if they were attainable. wouldn’t actually be perfect. 

Also, you and I can’t control anyone but ourselves, so they are not ever going to be attainable. 

What really matters is making sure that when my moment comes, whether it’s a gun, a disease, an accident or just old age that takes me from this flawed world, I am prepared to go to a place that really is perfect.

We won’t argue about the National Anthem there. There’s not one. 

We won’t worry about gun control. There’s no violence or death. 

We won’t even discuss how to keep trash out of people’s yards. There’s no trash in heaven. 

Darci would add a line from her favorite song, “No Deers in Heaven.”

Also, it’s important to me that my legacy left on this earth is helping others prepare to go with me. That starts in my home with my kids. 

It extends into our community, to the kids in my Bible class. It extends to you. 

When I see these acts of violence, I see people who need to see what’s really important.  

So whatever distractions and discussion come from the events of this week, let’s try to set our minds on what’s really important. 

Sarah Dykowski is the wife of Publisher Scott Dykowski. She can be reached at

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